Archives for the month of: January, 2013

Have you ever wondered why shoe shopping is so much fun?  In my case, I love shoes.  In the worst mood possible—throw me into a shoe department and I’m instantly happy again!  They are my form of candy!  Shoes are always kind.  In rare cases the size changes, but typically shoe shopping is predictable with a happy outcome.

Whoever discovered retail therapy probably was talking about shoes.  They are uncomplicated and can snap any outfit.  Spring is directly around the corner which means that Spring shoes are moving their way into my favorite retail haunts.  Happy Day! 

I was on one of my ‘retail therapy’ shoe shopping excursions the other day—the sales clerk was a young girl—in her 20′s—very perky—a smile that lit up the entire department.  Her laughter was infectious.  She was speaking to me about how wonderful the weather had been this winter and how she was enjoying not walking around in the cold.  Retail therapy was in full throttle now! 

Then—it struck without warning—a woman joined us in the retail therapy zone— from the looks of things she was suffering from chronic negativity.  (I’ve mentioned that ‘attitude’ problem in an earlier blog)  Her mission was to infect all of us.  She apparently had nothing to be positive about in her life.  Her face had a deep frown that pulled her expression down to her shoulder blades.  She was not a very tall woman and apparently forgot to eat most days as she was nothing more than a skeleton with skin on it.  When did starvation become attractive?  One could not help but feel pity for her.

As she spoke to the perky young girl —she mentioned that maybe the girl should “lay off of the cookies”.  “Men do not like plump women!” she exclaimed.  My manners almost left me as I wanted to say, “they don’t like emaciated skeletons either my dear”.  However, I kept restrained and in my own business.  The negativity was not going to infect me! 

As the young girl walked back to me —I noticed that she had a look of strain on her face.   Negativity was setting in—as she approached me I smiled and chuckled—all I could think of was the best line in Forrest Gump—”stupid is as stupid does!” I exclaimed.  The young girl chuckled—retail therapy had commenced once again!

Why it is that women with the most problems are most critical of every other woman is beyond me.  If you want to emaciate yourself to the point of starvation—be negative—hate life—see dark in all —that’s your prerogative.  However, do not judge everyone else that happens to embrace life.  Attractive is not negative—or starved—or pessimistic.  Attractive is healthy—happy—optimistic and positive! 

Whatever happened to the phrase, “if you can’t say something nice—say nothing at all!”  We should go back to the basics on social graces.  As women—society is critical enough on us!  Between what a “perfect woman “ should look like—what the “perfect size” should be—and what defines “good looking”—we are inundated with propaganda of what we should look like. 

We should band together and strengthen each other.  Especially our young ladies that have yet to understand how critical things can be.    Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder.  We should see each other as beautiful individuals.   After all, beauty is much deeper than surface level.  Remember the movie ‘Shallow Hal’?  It was a great portrayal of looking at people for who they are as people. 

My challenge is to see the beauty in everyone!  Stay optimistic!  Be positive! 

There will be days that things get beyond stressful—go shoe shopping!  Shoes always fit!  Snatch up your new kicks—and strut!


What exactly is “normal”?  The holidays are over and I hear the statement “finally things are back to normal”!  But what does that mean? 

Walking home yesterday, the sidewalks were packed.  It was amazing how many people could squeeze onto a sidewalk!  As I moved with the crowd and approached a street light, a man was walking towards me.  He was very tall, broad and by the looks of him was on a phone conversation that was not making his day. 

As he approached me, I attempted to get out of his path.  However, with so many people to maneuver around, it was impossible.  He hit me straight on better than a linebacker’s tackle in the superbowl!  Instantly, my body was airborne and then on my butt.   I looked up to see the man walking away, carefree of the fact that he had just knocked me down.  Things were back to “normal” —the kindness the holidays bring was definitely over!

This time of year, the many layers of clothing help to insulate our bodies from the cold.  In this case, the layers I was wearing were able to cushion my tail bone from injury.  As I sat in bewilderment for a split second, people began to fall over me.  How could they not see me?  Apparently, a person on the sidewalk is invisible if they are not standing. 

In a matter of seconds, 10 people were on the ground in different positions.  We were a pile of bodies on a busy city sidewalk!  A teenage girl at the bottom of the pile began to laugh.  Before long, all on the ground were laughing!  Isn’t it amazing how laughter can become contagious! 

People were stopping and laughing with us—with no idea as to what they were laughing at!  It was an amazing moment in time! 

A man put out his hand to help each of us up.  One by one, we were back on our feet—still laughing—introducing ourselves—enjoying the moment. 

As we parted ways — still strangers —never to see each other again—it was this memory of an enjoyable moment in time that we will remember.  A frustrating situation from a rude man knocking me down—turned into a moment of laughter and fun to be remembered fondly. 

I would love to let that teenage girl know the great deed that she accomplished — what she gave all of us in that moment in time.  To take a frustrating situation into a moment of laughter and enjoyment.  It was a great example of what is basic and true in this world.  All we have to do is be there for each other—hold hands—make sure to not lose anyone—always try to find the positive —and remember to laugh!

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Have you ever been enjoying a great day only to get sabotaged into a bad mood?  I live under the notion that if I’m upright and breathing — it’s a good day! 

 There are rare instances when a bad day did exist—but those involved loved ones dying.  However, my conclusion is that I would rather go through the pain of losing them than to have never loved them at all.  Something I do not say about the majority of men I’ve dated! 

 Back to the good days—when you wake up in the morning you have a choice—embrace the day with a smile and good spirits—or find every negative, pessimistic focal point and  pit your stomach until you just want to eat fried food—chocolate—pizza—donuts—then feel fat and go back to bed.  We’ve all done that to some extent in our lives. 

 I choose to get up and embrace the day with good spirits!  It’s a better option for me.  Plus I also tend to workout more which releases even more fun endorphins and the world begins to get even brighter! 

 If you choose the same path —to embrace the world in a positive attitude—be warned.  There are sabotagers that only have one mission—to exterminate all positive, happy people!  The minute you are exposed to their negativity you will instantly become more negative and gloom will set in.  It is more infectious than breathing on an airliner at 30,000 feet!

 Have no fear—there is a solution!  When exposed to pessimists—who, by the way, typically hide behind terming themselves as realists—just smile and get away as fast as possible.  Do not stop to talk—if they call figure out a way to hang up—if they stop by — find a way to depart—anything to not be infected with the negative virus! 

 To be infected with the negative virus assures certain bad thoughts—dismal outlooks—negative outcomes.  Therefore, run from negativity before the virus has a chance to infect you!  All it takes is a few seconds around negativity for it to strike.

 A positive outlook is our decision to make.  Do not let anyone make it for you.  Embrace the day—seize the moment—stand up straight—hold your head high —and strut! 

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